Monday, July 16, 2007
Sunday, July 15, 2007
In Pursuit of Happyness
Have you watched this movie? Will Smith and his son played the parts so well.. this is a truly touching story - based on a real life story! Normally, moms would go ALL THE WAY to give the best for their children but in this case, he's such a doting father who is so determined to turn their lives around for the better.... and his wife just left him!!!
And yes, the spelling is such... just like the one at the son's nursery school's and Chris Gardner (played by Will Smith) did comment that "they cannot even spell happiness correctly"...
Dari segi Islam, Allah akan menguji kemampuan hambaNya menghadapi setiap ujian.... tetapi kita tidak seharusnya berputus asa mengharap dan berdoa untuk yang terbaik....di samping berusaha sedaya upaya untuk mencapai hasrat & keinginan kita... insyaAllah, there's a light at the end of the tunnel....
A must watch especially for dads....
And yes, the spelling is such... just like the one at the son's nursery school's and Chris Gardner (played by Will Smith) did comment that "they cannot even spell happiness correctly"...
Dari segi Islam, Allah akan menguji kemampuan hambaNya menghadapi setiap ujian.... tetapi kita tidak seharusnya berputus asa mengharap dan berdoa untuk yang terbaik....di samping berusaha sedaya upaya untuk mencapai hasrat & keinginan kita... insyaAllah, there's a light at the end of the tunnel....
A must watch especially for dads....
Wednesday, July 11, 2007
Harry Potter 5
"Reducto", "Expecto...." ntah apa-apa lagi lah jampi serapah dalam citer Harry Potter ni. Nak kata I'm an avid fan of these series, tak lah jugak but I've been watching Harry Potter movies since the beginning.... watching how Harry Potter himself and his gangs have grown "on screen"....
For this 5th series, I quite enjoyed the movie with the effects and all but somehow I feel like something is amiss... cant really put words into my mouth but nevertheless some sort of dissatisfaction in the air.... maybe because of the presence of Dolores Umbridge that prohibits usage of magic among underage wizards....
But I guess, what I learn from this movie is that you should not over-protect anyone for fear that "the dark side" might harm him/her.... because no matter what, somehow or rather, (s)he might still get inflicted by it in another way anyway... Worse, (s)he would have to find his/her own way to overcome fear and are more unprepared to defend him/herself in such circumstances.
What's next??
For this 5th series, I quite enjoyed the movie with the effects and all but somehow I feel like something is amiss... cant really put words into my mouth but nevertheless some sort of dissatisfaction in the air.... maybe because of the presence of Dolores Umbridge that prohibits usage of magic among underage wizards....
But I guess, what I learn from this movie is that you should not over-protect anyone for fear that "the dark side" might harm him/her.... because no matter what, somehow or rather, (s)he might still get inflicted by it in another way anyway... Worse, (s)he would have to find his/her own way to overcome fear and are more unprepared to defend him/herself in such circumstances.
What's next??
Monday, July 9, 2007
Boys' Behavior: Why Boys Behave the Way They Do
Just read this article in Brainy-Child.com - interesting for a "new" mom like me....
This article is written by Troy Parrish MA LCPC . He is a therapist in private practice in the Columbia, Maryland area. He has been in practice for over 17 years and has significant clinical experience working with children who have either behavioral or attention problems. In his years of working with this population he has developed a system that helps parents and students organize, keep track of and maintain accountability for their homework. You can read more about this system at his web site www.homeworkkeeper.com
Among other things:
What this difference in brain development is that boys act the way they do because they are built to act that way. A boy's development is a central aspect of a boy's behavior. Boys are built to be more active, to test the limits of their physical strength, to throw things to see how it flies, to explore the woods or the insides of the computer, to seek new things to grab their interests, to take on a challenge, to compete with one another, to learn by doing and by experiment, and to try to fix problems.
Take that boy and put him into a setting in which he is expected to sit still for long periods of time and to learn through having someone talk to him, want to have him play quietly in the house and pay attention to his homework, to express himself by talking and you begin to see the dilemma that is being created for that boy and for those who are trying to enforce this structure. This structure is not allowing for how this child is created to operate, it pushes him towards “girl” behavior. Have enough of this constraint and you will begin to get school failure, school resistance, disruptive behavior and possibly rebellious behavior. So what can we do?
1) Appreciate that boys are built for activity. This activity must be accounted for when we are creating structure for our boys. Give boys an opportunity to move, make activity a part of a task as much as possible. Provide time to be active at regular intervals to keep the wiggles under control. Give the boys the more active chores to do at home and in the classroom.
2) Recognize that the attention span of a boy is going to be shorter when he is not particularly interested in a subject. When teaching boys, keeping tasks and subjects as short as can be and still achieve the objective of the task will help. Breaking things into parts with intervals of activity between can also be useful. Keeping homework to a limited amount can also be very helpful in terms of compliance and completion.
3) Take advantage of his natural curiosity to help him build his strengths. Build into his exploration topics or lessons in which he may not necessarily be interested. Appreciate that his natural curiosity will serve him well in his life.
4) Help him find appropriate ways to test his strength as well as his desire to compete. Don't try to train this out of him, this will only damage him. Instead, help him to see that there can be fun and beneficial ways of demonstrating his capacity to others and to himself.
5) Encourage the efforts he makes, not his ability or his talent. Some recent research shows that encouragement of effort is far more effective in development of perseverance and a positive self image than praising a child for his intelligence or raw ability.
6) When talking to him recognize that being active during that talk helps him absorb what you are saying (providing the activity is not too engaging). Taking a child on a walk or allowing him to color while you talk can be very helpful. Don't always expect a boy to look you in the eyes when you are disciplining him, he finds this embarrassing. By doing these things you are teaching him to express his feelings through talking rather than always by action.
7)Recognize that boys bond by doing things with other boys, and with you as well. Don't expect a boy to want to simply talk to you for the purpose of enjoyment and growing closer to you. He will come to you to talk to you about a problem. Keep it brief, talk too much and he will tune you out. If you wish to get closer to a boy, do things with him.
8) Don't compare him to other boys, either directly to him or even in your own mind. Remember, there is greater variability among boys than there are girls. Learn to appreciate the boy for who he is created to be.
So I guess... why Haikal acts the way he does is because he IS a growing BOY!!
This article is written by Troy Parrish MA LCPC . He is a therapist in private practice in the Columbia, Maryland area. He has been in practice for over 17 years and has significant clinical experience working with children who have either behavioral or attention problems. In his years of working with this population he has developed a system that helps parents and students organize, keep track of and maintain accountability for their homework. You can read more about this system at his web site www.homeworkkeeper.com
Among other things:
What this difference in brain development is that boys act the way they do because they are built to act that way. A boy's development is a central aspect of a boy's behavior. Boys are built to be more active, to test the limits of their physical strength, to throw things to see how it flies, to explore the woods or the insides of the computer, to seek new things to grab their interests, to take on a challenge, to compete with one another, to learn by doing and by experiment, and to try to fix problems.
Take that boy and put him into a setting in which he is expected to sit still for long periods of time and to learn through having someone talk to him, want to have him play quietly in the house and pay attention to his homework, to express himself by talking and you begin to see the dilemma that is being created for that boy and for those who are trying to enforce this structure. This structure is not allowing for how this child is created to operate, it pushes him towards “girl” behavior. Have enough of this constraint and you will begin to get school failure, school resistance, disruptive behavior and possibly rebellious behavior. So what can we do?
1) Appreciate that boys are built for activity. This activity must be accounted for when we are creating structure for our boys. Give boys an opportunity to move, make activity a part of a task as much as possible. Provide time to be active at regular intervals to keep the wiggles under control. Give the boys the more active chores to do at home and in the classroom.
2) Recognize that the attention span of a boy is going to be shorter when he is not particularly interested in a subject. When teaching boys, keeping tasks and subjects as short as can be and still achieve the objective of the task will help. Breaking things into parts with intervals of activity between can also be useful. Keeping homework to a limited amount can also be very helpful in terms of compliance and completion.
3) Take advantage of his natural curiosity to help him build his strengths. Build into his exploration topics or lessons in which he may not necessarily be interested. Appreciate that his natural curiosity will serve him well in his life.
4) Help him find appropriate ways to test his strength as well as his desire to compete. Don't try to train this out of him, this will only damage him. Instead, help him to see that there can be fun and beneficial ways of demonstrating his capacity to others and to himself.
5) Encourage the efforts he makes, not his ability or his talent. Some recent research shows that encouragement of effort is far more effective in development of perseverance and a positive self image than praising a child for his intelligence or raw ability.
6) When talking to him recognize that being active during that talk helps him absorb what you are saying (providing the activity is not too engaging). Taking a child on a walk or allowing him to color while you talk can be very helpful. Don't always expect a boy to look you in the eyes when you are disciplining him, he finds this embarrassing. By doing these things you are teaching him to express his feelings through talking rather than always by action.
7)Recognize that boys bond by doing things with other boys, and with you as well. Don't expect a boy to want to simply talk to you for the purpose of enjoyment and growing closer to you. He will come to you to talk to you about a problem. Keep it brief, talk too much and he will tune you out. If you wish to get closer to a boy, do things with him.
8) Don't compare him to other boys, either directly to him or even in your own mind. Remember, there is greater variability among boys than there are girls. Learn to appreciate the boy for who he is created to be.
So I guess... why Haikal acts the way he does is because he IS a growing BOY!!
Forgiven, Not Forgotten
Ada orang cakap kalau tak boleh melupakan, adakah kita sudah benar-benar memaafkan? Ntah lah yek tapi I think it is up to the individual. For me, I can forgive but not easily forget... just like the song from The Corrs.. Forgiven, Not Forgotten....
Banyak perkara yang terjadi yang kadang kala menjadikan kita terpikir.... kenapa agaknya benda ni berlaku kepada kita? Memang ini semua ujian Allah - mudah-mudahan sedikit ketidak-selesaan di dunia akan mendatangkan lebih kebahagiaan di akhirat, insyaAllah.... tetapi ada kalanya perkara-perkara sebegini membuat kita terpikir sekiranya ini adalah balasan atas sesuatu kesilapan kita.... mana satu ek?
Memang lah tak ada manusia yang sempurna, apatah lagi kita ni umat di akhir zaman yang penuh dengan godaan duniawi... apa kah agaknya yang menanti di kemudian hari agaknya yek? Apakah rahsia Allah yang belum di tunjukkan dengan ujianNya ini? Semoga iman akan sentiasa terpahat di jiwa ini dan semoga dengan bimbinganNya lah aku akan sentiasa bersyukur dengan nikmat-nikmat pemberianNya.
Walau apa pun, biarlah Allah jua yang membalas segala buruk baik perbuatan kita ini... kita tidak seharusnya menghukum sesama manusia ini walau apa jua alasannya... betul tak?
Apa yang hendak ku sampaikan di sini? Ntah la... mungkin hanya sekadar keluhan insan yang terasa kadang kala terhimpit dengan dugaan Allah....
I leave you to enjoy the song (if you know it)
All alone, staring on, watching her life go by,
When her days are grey and her nights are black,
Different shades of mundane and the one eyed furry toy
That lies upon the bed has often heard her cry
And heard her whisper out a name long forgiven, but not forgotten,
You're forgiven not forgotten
You're forgiven not forgotten
You're forgiven not forgotten
You're not forgotten
A bleeding heart torn apart, left on an icy grave,
In the room where they once lay, face to face,
Nothing could get in their way, but now the memories of the man
Are haunting her days and the craving never fades,
She's still dreaming of a man long forgiven, but not forgotten,
You're forgiven not forgotten
You're forgiven not forgotten
You're forgiven not forgotten
You're not forgotten
Still alone, staring on, wishing her life goodbye
As she goes searching for the man long forgiven, but not forgotten,
You're forgiven not forgotten
You're forgiven not forgotten
You're forgiven not forgotten
You're forgiven not forgotten
You're forgiven not forgotten
You're forgiven not forgotten
You're forgiven not forgotten
You're forgiven not forgotten
You're not forgotten
You're not forgotten
No, you're not forgotten
Banyak perkara yang terjadi yang kadang kala menjadikan kita terpikir.... kenapa agaknya benda ni berlaku kepada kita? Memang ini semua ujian Allah - mudah-mudahan sedikit ketidak-selesaan di dunia akan mendatangkan lebih kebahagiaan di akhirat, insyaAllah.... tetapi ada kalanya perkara-perkara sebegini membuat kita terpikir sekiranya ini adalah balasan atas sesuatu kesilapan kita.... mana satu ek?
Memang lah tak ada manusia yang sempurna, apatah lagi kita ni umat di akhir zaman yang penuh dengan godaan duniawi... apa kah agaknya yang menanti di kemudian hari agaknya yek? Apakah rahsia Allah yang belum di tunjukkan dengan ujianNya ini? Semoga iman akan sentiasa terpahat di jiwa ini dan semoga dengan bimbinganNya lah aku akan sentiasa bersyukur dengan nikmat-nikmat pemberianNya.
Walau apa pun, biarlah Allah jua yang membalas segala buruk baik perbuatan kita ini... kita tidak seharusnya menghukum sesama manusia ini walau apa jua alasannya... betul tak?
Apa yang hendak ku sampaikan di sini? Ntah la... mungkin hanya sekadar keluhan insan yang terasa kadang kala terhimpit dengan dugaan Allah....
I leave you to enjoy the song (if you know it)
All alone, staring on, watching her life go by,
When her days are grey and her nights are black,
Different shades of mundane and the one eyed furry toy
That lies upon the bed has often heard her cry
And heard her whisper out a name long forgiven, but not forgotten,
You're forgiven not forgotten
You're forgiven not forgotten
You're forgiven not forgotten
You're not forgotten
A bleeding heart torn apart, left on an icy grave,
In the room where they once lay, face to face,
Nothing could get in their way, but now the memories of the man
Are haunting her days and the craving never fades,
She's still dreaming of a man long forgiven, but not forgotten,
You're forgiven not forgotten
You're forgiven not forgotten
You're forgiven not forgotten
You're not forgotten
Still alone, staring on, wishing her life goodbye
As she goes searching for the man long forgiven, but not forgotten,
You're forgiven not forgotten
You're forgiven not forgotten
You're forgiven not forgotten
You're forgiven not forgotten
You're forgiven not forgotten
You're forgiven not forgotten
You're forgiven not forgotten
You're forgiven not forgotten
You're not forgotten
You're not forgotten
No, you're not forgotten
Thursday, July 5, 2007
Harry Potter....
Semalam gi amik tiket Harry Potter kat GSC 1-utama. Hoorayy!!! Dapat 2 tiket for 9:45pm show. Row E.. tu kira okay lah tu sebab yang lain seme dekat ngan screen.....
Hari ini pulak adalah hari pertama dapat "P" since melahirkan Shasmeen + nifas.... Masa Haikal dulu, exactly on the 7th month tapi kali ni lambat sket... kurang 2 hari masuk 8 bulan. Takut gak.. sebab ada orang, tak datang "P" ni terus sangkut 1 lagi!! ishhhhh..... Alhamdulillah..... Good or bad? hmmmmmmmmmmm
Nasib baik lah dah sempat ganti puasa 26 hari (from the whole month of 30 days!!!).... Dah start dari bulan Januari dulu - puasa Senin Khamis! Bagus jugak nak men"diet"kan diri 2 kali seminggu ni. At least boleh sempat habiskan insyaAllah dalam bulan ni jugak... lepas tu, kalau puasa kira "extra" leee...
Anyway, here are some delayed photos from earlier weeks' posting
Haikal's favourite Thomas & "Fghren"'s ride in KLCC - in front of Haagen Daaz
With cousins (from left) Jules, Moon & Fiza. Kat depan tu, Haikal and his second cousin (Jules')
Latest stint from my gorgeous children - Meen suka main rambut Abang Ekal
Hari ini pulak adalah hari pertama dapat "P" since melahirkan Shasmeen + nifas.... Masa Haikal dulu, exactly on the 7th month tapi kali ni lambat sket... kurang 2 hari masuk 8 bulan. Takut gak.. sebab ada orang, tak datang "P" ni terus sangkut 1 lagi!! ishhhhh..... Alhamdulillah..... Good or bad? hmmmmmmmmmmm
Nasib baik lah dah sempat ganti puasa 26 hari (from the whole month of 30 days!!!).... Dah start dari bulan Januari dulu - puasa Senin Khamis! Bagus jugak nak men"diet"kan diri 2 kali seminggu ni. At least boleh sempat habiskan insyaAllah dalam bulan ni jugak... lepas tu, kalau puasa kira "extra" leee...
Anyway, here are some delayed photos from earlier weeks' posting
Haikal's favourite Thomas & "Fghren"'s ride in KLCC - in front of Haagen Daaz
Ni lah kedai Mak Ani kat Anggerik Mall Shah Alam
With cousins (from left) Jules, Moon & Fiza. Kat depan tu, Haikal and his second cousin (Jules')
Latest stint from my gorgeous children - Meen suka main rambut Abang Ekal
Autobots vs Decepticons!!!
Weekend lepas gi tengok Transformers.... BEST!!! Autobots makin canggih daripada zaman kat TV tu... and of course, Megatron makin "hensem" walaupun jahat...
Haikal suka jugak tengok "ghobot" ni tapi agaknya dia kepenatan sket so tertidur halfway through the show!
Fadel sempat beli baju Transformers ni kat "gerai2" outside Cineleisure tu - weekends je ada kedai2 ni kan? so dapatklah 2 for RM50! Satu putih & one more warna hitam... OK lah quality dia.
Haikal lak dapat 2 baju Thomas & "Fhgren"... satu with collar & the other lengan panjang. 2 for RM55... tu pun lepas dah puas bargain ngan akak jual tu... memula tu 1 for RM29....
Anyway... seronok lah jugak..
Now ni nak gi beli tiket untuk Harry Potter lak....
Haikal suka jugak tengok "ghobot" ni tapi agaknya dia kepenatan sket so tertidur halfway through the show!
Fadel sempat beli baju Transformers ni kat "gerai2" outside Cineleisure tu - weekends je ada kedai2 ni kan? so dapatklah 2 for RM50! Satu putih & one more warna hitam... OK lah quality dia.
Haikal lak dapat 2 baju Thomas & "Fhgren"... satu with collar & the other lengan panjang. 2 for RM55... tu pun lepas dah puas bargain ngan akak jual tu... memula tu 1 for RM29....
Anyway... seronok lah jugak..
Now ni nak gi beli tiket untuk Harry Potter lak....
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